Letting go...

Don't get lost in your pain, know that one day your pain will become your cure.” — Rumi

For the longest time, I have held on to things so tightly because I was so afraid of loss. I used to think that life would make no sense if I let go of things that I find so much comfort in, until I realised that there is absolutely no point in holding on to that which does not belong to me, and never will.

Inevitably I was afraid of feeling pain, I was resisting heartache. But, feeling pain and losing things along the way, is a process that we must all experience. GRIEF is a process we must all experience, because without grief, how can we grow?

So now I look at grief differently, I pair it with GRATITUDE. Doing this, allows me to feel more grounded because one cannot exist without the other. Grief alone will torment me because I will always be holding onto a loss of what was, of what will never return and of what has left, without realising that it was always meant to leave. So, when I fail to accept the present it adds more torment to the pain.

But if I pair it with gratitude I realise that nothing in our lives are here to stay. I realise that what has left is an opening to be more grateful to what is currently still present. It grounds me in the knowing that I have so much to be grateful for and that loss does not define me and my purpose.

Disclaimer

Grief is not just for death, it is also for:

1. Friendships that have ended;

2. Losing your community;

3. Missing the certainty you once had;

4. Releasing who you once were and

5. Losing a job

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